Hey moms……did the precious child you carried for 9 hard months post his or her undying love and adoration on social media for you this mother’s day? Yes? No? My daughter in law posted a precious message….. girls tend to think of these things first and I am grateful to finally have a thoughtful female in my brood; however, it was my middle son that made me burst out laughing with his twitter message of mommy gratitude.
“Happy Mother’s day to @MelMel27. Only woman in the world capable of what she puts up with.”
While raising 3 boys has subjected me to many happy, mommy moments, let’s just be honest…I have put up with quite a bit through the years…and it seems some days it is still ongoing. Aaron’s post got me to thinking of not so happy times when I’ve been sure my boys were going to be the death of me.
To sit here and pretend we have the perfect family life with the perfect kids who have made the perfect choices in their lives would be fake. I’m getting too old and impatient to carry on a ruse as such, besides…I can’t fool GOD can I? None of us can….he knows what we hide and how we tend to share only the perfect parts of our life. I’m too exhausted to sprinkle my social media pages with rainbows and choice tidbits of perfection.
Raising 3 boys has made me keenly aware of failure, sin, and humility. When they fail…I take it personally…but the fact is….my kid’s are sinners just like their mom and dad. If being a parent doesn’t make you humble…I don’t know what will.
There are many victories on the long road of motherhood….but the truth is…..there are sad times, hard times, confusing times and times you just want to smack their little faces.
As I watch my boys in hairy, men bodies become adults, I am learning to resist intervening in their decisions, choices, and mistakes. My husband and I will give GODLY guidance if they ask or not, but if we run interference….we may be hampering GOD’S will for their lives. Our job is not to go behind them and fix it anymore….sometimes we can’t….therefore we have to let them walk through the fire.
Undoubtedly our kids are going to hurt, suffer and wrestle through the carnage of the effects…..the pain will be real….the lessons hard. Our hearts may break while standing on the sidelines watching….but don’t just stand and watch…..fall to your knees and intercede on their behalf to GOD.
C.S. Lewis has a great quote about pain…
“GOD whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but SHOUTS in our pain; it is HIS megaphone to rouse a deaf world.”
Pain has a way of teaching lessons even a loving parent can’t articulate…..and let’s be honest…they probably won’t listen. GOD will use the pain in our kids lives to grow them…..guide them…..draw them to HIM…..and a funny thing happens in the process…HE draws mom and dad too.
Everything GOD allows us to go through in life is designed to make us more holy….more like JESUS.
To interfere when we shouldn’t can stunt our kid’s spiritual growth. While we want to spare them of pain….the truth is…..pain is what molds their character. This is an important lesson no matter how old your kids are. There is going to be only one winner at the spelling bee…..only a chosen talented few will make the cheer squad or basketball team….he or she is not always going to get the job they want or even their dream girl or guy.
Life is not fair and there are going to be cheaters, bullies, prejudices, brown nosers and some people who will use them. There will be failures, irresponsible decisions, immaturity and sin with consequences along the way.
If this mother’s day has left you with less than warm and fuzzy feelings due to a child’s bad choice….or if you have a heavy heart because your child is in the midst of pain….. or possible danger……take courage! Think of your big or little kid as an acorn….growing into an oak of righteousness.
“So they will be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that HE may be glorified.” Isaiah 61:3
Pray moms….pray….this is the most important thing we will ever do for our children since giving them life. Pray for their spiritual growth…and understanding in the midst of pain.
Resist the urge to fix things in their lives…..instead…pray….and seek GOD to be the ultimate fixer….and restorer.
Oh, GOD….grow our kids….big and little….to be GODLY men and women.